The things you own end up owning you

“The things you own end up owning you” ― Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club

The last few days, articles have been appearing on my screen relating to this quote so I thought it was a message from the universe telling me to write about it.

When you think what you have isn’t enough and you’re always looking for more, how will you know when you have enough? Will you ever make enough money to live the life you want or will you want to move to a bigger house, buy a better car, send your kids to a better school and so on?

I think the new generation are the smart ones. They want to experience things, travel to different countries, work in different cities, live closer to work so that they can spend time doing things that they enjoy doing. They refuse to be tied down to one job, one employer, mortgages, car payments etc.

People make excuses to justify why they want to own or possess things but really, whether you’re rich or poor, in the end you only need six feet or so, give or take a few. You have no clue whether you have a few days, a few months, a few years or a few decades before your time is up on this earth and unfortunately, what you own, you cannot take with you.

All you can do is leave memories and hope that you made a difference in someone’s life. Be grateful for what you have now, smile more, teach your children how to stand on their own two feet, spend time with them, they don’t need more gadgets or toys. They don’t need you to leave property for them, they need your time, your love.




Hypnosis – Kinetic Shift with Karl Smith

I spent the weekend learning the Kinetic Shift Technique with Karl Smith of the UK Hypnosis Academy, who flew in to Toronto for the workshop.

Having taken many classes with Dr. Mike Mandel and Chris Thompson, I was excited to learn that they were bringing in Karl Smith to facilitate a workshop.

Karl Smith served twelve years in the British Army and then moved into the Emergency services where he served ten years. Karl specializes in Post Trauma, Anxiety and Stress.

His story of how he got into hypnosis is quite interesting and started with a teen drunk driver running over him. It eventually led Karl to develop a system that deals with PTSD and other issues rapidly.

The more I learn about hypnosis, the more I wonder why it isn’t mainstream as yet. There is still that fear that hypnosis is mind control. If only people knew how hypnosis works  and how quickly you can make profound changes in your life and get rid of traumas and phobias, you would be amazed.

All hypnosis is self hypnosis, the Hypnotist/Hypnotherapist facilitates the session to get to you to that state where you can make those changes/shifts without your conscious mind getting in the way.

People spend thousands of dollars on trying to fix the body when in reality it is the internal, subconscious/unconscious mind that controls everything. Hypnosis helps get rid of all the garbage accumulated over the years.

Being hypnotized and hypnotizing others in the classroom to make kinetic shifts using Karl’s techniques was an amazing experience. Thanks Karl!

What you seek is seeking you – Rumi

Focus on something, whether it’s a particular word, thing, person or topic and you’ll find that you’ll see it or something relating to it everywhere and this has always been the case, way before Google or Facebook feeds!

I remember many times I would wish that I wouldn’t run into a particular person and undoubtedly, that would be the one person I’d run into. Ever shopped for a camera or a car and you notice it everywhere, on billboards, in magazines, overhear people talking about it?

The Reticular Activating System or the RAS gets activated every time you focus on something intently. The RAS is the attention center in the brain and t takes instructions from your conscious mind and passes them on to your subconscious.

It took me many years to finally understand and consciously make a decision to focus on the things that I wanted for my life instead of worrying and not expecting the best outcome, just in case I was disappointed.

As soon as I changed my focus and started writing down daily, the things that I was grateful for and focusing on positive thoughts, I noticed that I began to receive more of what I was grateful for. It was so simple! The more that I focused on the things that I wanted, the more I got of it.

Your mind and thoughts are so powerful and many books have been written about them but until you are ready and open to receiving the message, you will not even notice it and simple yet powerful messages will be just words on a page.

Once you open your heart and train your mind to focus on the positive, you will notice simple but powerful messages everywhere.

What you seek will be seeking you.


We Beieve What We Believe

We believe what we believe because of our parents and caretakers. We really don’t have a choice when we’re young, when it comes to religion. Whether we’re Hindu, Muslim, Jewish or Catholic, we automatically identify with whatever religion our parents practice.

For the longest time, I identified myself as a Hindu although I am not religious. I would occasionally (once a year) go to a temple here in Toronto. Every time I ate a Big Mac or a steak, I would feel guilty because the cow is considered holy in Hinduism. It was as if there was a voice in my head telling me I was being a bad Hindu.

With all the atrocities being committed in the name of religion, it made me question my beliefs. It was only recently that it came to me that if I changed what I believed I wouldn’t have to feel guilty anymore! It had nothing to do with anyone or any religion. All I needed to do was believe something different and I could do as I pleased instead of locking myself in a self-imposed prison.

I believe John Lennon got it right when he wrote “Imagine”, his lyrics ring true to me:

Imagine there’s no heaven

It’s easy if you try

No hell below us

Above us, only sky

Imagine all the people living for today

Imagine there’s no countries

It isn’t hard to do

Nothing to kill or die for

And no religion, too

Imagine all the people living life in peace…

This is my anthem now and I do believe in a higher power, in the power of the mind, in the power of connection and love. I release myself from all organized religions and I feel free.


Is Reality Just Perception?

Each one of us lives in our own reality and who is to say which one of us is right?

Take for example, our Canadian Prime Minister, Justin Trudeau who believes in welcoming those that are fleeing persecution, terror & war while at the same time, in the United States, Donald Trump is closing his borders to those fleeing persecution, terror & war.

The refugee situation is the same, however, one believes in compassion and the other in instilling fear. There are thousands who support each of them. Depending on your own perception of reality, you agree with one or the other.

So what makes people believe one way or the other?

I believe, those that live in fear, believe in scarcity and usually tend to expect the worst.

It’s up to the compassionate ones, the grateful ones, the ones who believe we are all born equal, to do what they can in their own small way, whether it’s by protesting injustices around the world, sponsoring a refugee or giving money to a cause.

You can choose your own reality and begin to notice that if you choose to be fearful, you’ll draw more things to be fearful of into your life.

If you choose to be grateful, you’ll notice that you get more things to be grateful for…so my friends, change your perception and see your reality change.

Below are a few quotes that you may enjoy:

“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” – Albert Einstein

“Humans see what they want to see.” ― Rick RiordanThe Lightning Thief

 “The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.”
― W.B. Yeats

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” ― Wayne W. Dyer

“The older you get, the more you understand how your conscience works. The biggest and only critic lives in your perception of people’s perception of you rather than people’s perception of you.” ― Criss JamiKillosophy

Seventeen – just a number?

For the longest time, I would avoid doing anything important on the 17th of a month. My youngest sister, Anita (Baby as we called her) died on the 17th when she was just 15 years old, my Dad too passed away on the 17th, so it probably isn’t hard to understand that I may have had some issues with the number 17.

When Louie and I were getting married, I insisted that we get married on the 16th (Friday) instead of the 17th because of my fear of something bad happening if we were married on the 17th. I avoided doing many things on the 17th and avoided the number 17 whenever I could. The number 17 was to me what the number 13 is to many people, unlucky.

Then suddenly one day, it may have been around the time my daughter, Bianca was born, I decided that the number 17 was going to be lucky for me. I didn’t want her to be influenced by superstitions which could potentially stop her from living her best life. Not only was 17 going to be lucky but anything that was generally thought to be unlucky, would be lucky for me and her. All those old superstitions that held me back at times, now worked in my favour!

By switching from unlucky to lucky, my life changed forever! Good things started to happen to me and when I added gratitude to this, my life became even better. I became more positive and more happier. I think I am now the luckiest person on earth and, as I learn and grow each day, I realize that perception really is everything. So if you think 17 is unlucky or lucky, it is.

Whatever your unlucky, you have the ability to change it to lucky, all you need to do is decide to change your perception of the thing. Reality really is just perception. Give it a try.

Anchors Aweigh

Anchoring can be used in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and Hypnosis to trigger a positive emotional state. If you establish a trigger successfully, you can reproduce that emotion later.

Have you ever wondered why certain smells bring you back to a time in your past or remind you of a person or an event? This can be either a positive memory or a negative one.

The easiest and quickest way to deliberately anchor positive emotional states is, in hypnosis. Relax, breathe deeply and recall an activity that you enjoy. Really get into that moment, feel the feelings of being in that activity, feel the joy. As you are experiencing that joyful feeling, anchor it by touching your thumb and ring finger together. Add to it other happy memories and continue to anchor the feelings.

You can keep anchoring each time you experience a happy feeling and you will notice that in challenging time, when you bring your thumb and ring finger together, you immediately get that positive feeling that you anchored earlier.

Give it a shot and see how it works for you.





Words Matter

Words do matter, people! If you have little kids, be very careful with the words you use.

What happens when you tell a child, don’t spill the milk, the child inadvertently spills the milk. A child’s critical faculty isn’t developed until after 6-8 years of age.

The unconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between “do and”don’t”, it hears spill the milk. If you want your children to grow up to be positive, happy and confident, instead of telling them what not to do, tell them what you want them to do. Be careful with the milk instead of don’t spill the milk.Keep using positive words to encourage positive behaviours.

The unconscious mind is absorbing millions and millions of things going on around us although we may be aware of only a few things consciously. When parent argue about money in front of kids, thinking that the children are young and will not understand, their young unconscious mind is actually absorbing all the information. This can seriously damage a child’s well-being and the child can grow up unable to handle their finances.

Imagine the impact television and video games are having on our children. By being aware of how the unconscious mind is being affected, adults can at least make some effort to choose what their children are watching.

Writing Right – Graphology

It was an eye opener taking a course in handwriting analysis and learning that it is not the hand that writes but the brain. Studying with Dr. Mike Mandel is always an amazing experience. According to him, the writing never lies!

I have been practicing my new skills and, people are surprised how accurate the analysis has been for them. I’ve made a few changes to my writing to add traits like creativity and willpower.

It is interesting to learn from a person’s writing whether they are optimistic or pessimistic, whether the person has a temper, is impulsive or in fact the opposite is true.

Graphology would sure come in handy when looking for a business partner or when selecting a babysitter. Something to consider the next time you want to bring in a new person into your life.

Graphotherapy is the ultimate self-therapy says Dr. Mike Mandel so I shall continue to improve my handwriting!